100% Responsibility

I would like to share something that i have recently read from a book. I usually don’t read books but i have started to pick up the habit of reading. Not story books please but some self guidance books. Story books are NO NO for me as some of them are too dramatic, emotionally intense, imaginative, ... and the list goes on. I can’t picture images of vampires fighting werewolves, wizards flying on broomsticks or bunch of hobbits, elves and humans going gaga over a silly ring in my mind.

A formula which is useful and common in our everyday lives that i would like to share is

E + R = O.

This is a very simple formula to understand and not some Einstein’s theory of E=mc2. E stands for event, R for response and O for outcome. The idea is that for every outcome that we got in life is due to how we responded to events which happened in our lives. Let me provide some simple examples.

Event: Boy A meets girl B in his class. Girl B is very pretty and boy A sort of fell in love with girl B. B doesn’t have a bf but has a lot of boys going after her.

Response: A decided not to go after her or confess his feelings as he thinks he is not as good as other boys or fear he will be rejected.

Outcome: B is together with someone else and A is left alone.

If A had responded by showing his affection for B and determination to win B’s heart, the outcome might have been different. Instead of working for an outcome which is desired, he put the blame on other boys or the fear of being rejected. Have you ever blamed something or given excuses for an undesired outcome? I know i did and a lot of us do. If we are going to be successful in life, we have to take 100% responsibility for the things we do. If we want a favourable outcome, we have to put in extra effort and take risks to achieve it. We have to give up on all the bullsh*t.

Up to till now, we have created everything that had happened or happening to us. We have to be responsible of that and be in charge of creating a future that we want. Change your responses if you don’t like what you are experiencing or creating.

“99% of failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.” – George Washington Carver